Dating a guarded person
She's non-threatening, “relatable” and undeniably lovable. She's simply void of the fear of getting crushed, and if she is afraid — it's a contrived, surface fear that's squashed the very moment the hazel-eyed bad boy presses his pouty lips against hers, and swears he's changed his unsavory ways and will love her until the end of time.We, on the other hand, are the girls society deemed “guarded”— not exactly a coveted trait.The damsel with the wide set, oh-so-innocent Bambi eyes that forever glisten with swelling emotion.Moviegoers are collectively awestruck by this adorable specimen in her girly, yet tomboyish attire, gleaming with the glow of patience as she teaches her damaged male love interest the poignant lesson of loving with an open heart.Hollywood finds us highly unmarketable, and rarely are we represented in pop culture (and when we are, it's not exactly an authentic portrayal).
Many clients turn to Kelleher International’s matchmaking services because they don’t want to experience more heartbreak.People who identify as “guarded” benefit from the most from matchmaking services like ours because they know we’ve done our homework.We only make matches when we are absolutely sure there is potential for a happy long-term relationship. Loving someone with a guarded heart is dangerous territory, but it is totally possible to make things work with the right knowledge.They know we enforce a detailed screening process to get only the best matches – and the best chance at love.Lasting relationships rely on a number of factors, but one of the most important elements we evaluate is each client’s openness to love.
It’s those who most closely identify with option A that are referred to as “avoidant,” or “guarded.” These theories come from researchers Hazan and Shaver, who developed the above test to help determine attachment styles in romantic relationships.