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I didn't know much about China back then -- a time when I could only communicate in Mandarin with a dictionary and lots of patience, and where my entire cultural knowledge was amassed from the library books on China I borrowed during the summer.
But I figured surely I wasn't alone in my feelings.
You could substitute Hong Kong with the name of any country or region in the world and end up with comparable results.
Even Chinese-American men don't feel the love from their fellow Americans, lamenting this in essays such as "Are Asian Men Undateable?
At the time I was only beginning to learn about negative stereotypes of Asian men that American TV, movies and the media had perpetuated over the years: effeminate, weak, nerdy and, worst of all, sexless and less endowed in a (ahem) certain department.
The woman who wrote that post never specifically said any of these things about local men in China, but she didn't have to. Then again, her post appears downright classy in comparison to what I've read in the free-for-all world of anonymous expat forums across China.
The experience of being in a foreign country and culture somehow liberated us from our usual American expectations for men and dating itself. We could even reinvent ourselves and what it meant to be in love with someone.
It seemed natural and normal to do the same in China.
I agree that culture plays a role when you're a foreigner in China dating the locals.
Negative impressions ultimately dominated as the women criticized Chinese men as "not so gentlemanly," "poor physique, not enough exercise," "no personality, lacking unique opinions," even condemning them on perceived personal hygiene problems.
One American participant in the study actually blamed Hollywood for projecting a poor image of Chinese men around the world, and I couldn't help but wonder if she was thinking of Look across East Asia or, for that matter, any country in the Western world, and you'll notice a very revealing gap in the Asian interracial dating world: lots of Asian women and Western men together, and nary an Asian man with a Western woman in sight.
He always opened doors for me and wouldn't leave my side until he escorted me all the way to the entrance to my apartment.
He helped me buy a bicycle at the secondhand market and even gave me a ride there on the back of his black metal bike.
The post was written by a white American woman based in Shanghai and titled, "So, how's the dating scene?